Holistic Trauma-informed Therapy in New York CITY (Virtual therapy in NY, NJ, DC, & MD)
Compassionate therapy to heal from anxiety, trauma, people pleasing and the pressure to be everything to everyone.
For those who are ready to stop over-thinking, over-giving, over-functioning, and over-riding their own needs
You feel stuck in patterns of over-thinking, over-giving, and putting everyone else first so you are left feeling exhausted.
You constantly put other peoples needs before your own, struggle to say no, and overanalyze every interaction. It’s exhausting, and deep down, you’re craving permission to finally choose you. You appear “put together” always achieving and doing but you’re battling burn out, low self-esteem, and a sense that you are never doing enough. Rest feels like a luxury you haven’t earned. You find yourself in one sided relationships constantly feeling responsible for other peoples emotions, mood, and fixing their problems. You want to learn how to attend to your needs and practice self-compassion, but you don’t know where to start.
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Trauma can keep us in fight-flight-freeze-fawn 24-7. You’re caught in cycles of self-doubt, hypervigilance, and overt-thinking. You replay conversations, fear rejection, and feel responsible for how everyone around you feels. It’s tiring and you don’t know how to just be without scanning for danger or performing for approval.
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You’ve built a life that looks good on the outside - but inside, you’re always bracing. You’re always people pleasing. Always feeling responsible for other people. You don’t fully trust yourself, your emotions, or your relationships. You might feel anxious, avoidant, or like you’re on autopilot through life. Deep down, you’re longing for safety, connection, and a way back to yourself.
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You’ve tried talk therapy before, but it didn’t stick or you haven’t truly connected with your therapist. You found yourself aware of some patterns, but nothing changing. You are ready for the right connection with a therapist who deeply gets you and participates in the convo. You want an actual plan to address what is going on and heal the patterns to make lasting long term change.
Hi! Im Alyssa.
I look forward to getting to know you and connecting!
I am a trauma-informed therapist passionate about helping adults who feel stuck in cycles of anxiety, people pleasing, and self-doubt finally feel safe in their own authenticity. I work with clients who are outwardly successful but inwardly overwhelmed - those who have spent years taking care of everyone else, overthinking every decision, and second guessing their worth. If you’re craving deeper healing and a more compassionate relationship with yourself, I’d be honored to support!
I will always prioritize creating a comfortable, safe, and supportive space and build the relationship and trust between us first before diving in. I believe that one size doesn’t fit all with therapy approaches, so depending on your needs we can collaborate to individualize your treatment plan together pulling from various approaches I use.
I will be there to listen, to validate, and to hear you and I also offer feedback, guidance, accountability, and strategies to make meaningful change.
How I can help
I specialize in therapy for lasting change.
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You may find yourself anxious in relationships, fearing abandonment or rejection, having an insecure attachment style , or disconnecting completely to protect yourself. I help clients understand the roots of these patterns and begin to build secure, authentic connections - with others but starting with the relationship they have with themselves. Learn more.
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If your nervous system is always on overdrive - over-thinking, over-performing, over-extending- I support clients in regulating their anxiety, understanding emotional triggers, and learning how to live from a place of grounded calm rather than constant urgency and fight-flight-freeze-fawn.
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These are often protective strategies developed from early emotional neglect, criticism, chaotic households, or enmeshment. Together, we’ll explore where these come from and the underlying narratives that keep you stuck in cycles of guilt, burn out, and self-abandonment. We will rewrite them together. Learn more.
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If you feel numb, detached, or like you’re just “going through the motions,” it may be your body’s way of protecting you. Through somatic work, EMDR, mindful self-compassion and our therapy - I help clients gently reconnect to their emotional world and learn to feel again - safely. Learn more here.
How it works
Life is stressful enough right now. Let me make this part as easy as possible.
Click this link to choose a day and time for a free, confidential 15 minute phone consultation. I will take the time to get to know you and your therapy needs, answer questions you may have for me, and together we can determine if we are the right fit to get started.