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Heal from your relational trauma.
Get out of fight-flight-freeze-fawn.
Reconnect with your authentic self.
Build relationships that feel safe, secure, and more aligned.

As a relational trauma therapist, I believe healing happens when we feel seen, safe, and supported by others - not when we push through or “just get over it.”

You’ve done so much to hold it all together. You’re self-aware, high-functioning, and strong - and yet, you still feel stuck. Maybe your body’s always tense. Maybe you dissociate and numb out when you’re overwhelmed or exhausted. Maybe you over-function in relationships, perform for connection, or react intensly to big emotions in ways that feel out of your control. Maybe you just know something’s off, even if you can’t name it!

These aren’t things that are “wrong” with you - they’re often relational trauma responses or attachment wounds that at one point kept you surviving and safe. And honestly they make a lot of sense when you think about it. But now, we just have to teach your nervous system that you don’t need these protective responses anymore.

Relational trauma isn’t always one big event. It’s often chronic, relational, and invisible - built over time from feeling unseen, unsupported, or unsafe. You might’ve learned to shrink yourself, keep the peace, or stay hyper-aware of others to keep love, connection, or emotional safety.

In therapy, we’ll explore these patterns through a holistic, nervous-system-informed lens. I blend EMDR, somatic approaches, parts work, and mindfulness-based tools to help your body feel safer, your emotions feel more manageable, and your inner world feel less overwhelming.

We’ll work together to rebuild self-trust, reconnect with your authentic self, learn how to manage big emotions, tolerate discomfort, and create more ease in your relationships.

To read more about relational trauma, c-ptsd, and attachment wounds, keep scrolling below:

Not all relational trauma looks the same.

Trauma can show up in so many ways - chronic stress, emotional flashbacks, difficulty trusting, big emotions that are hard to manage, people-pleasing, or a constant sense of being on edge.

Whether it’s childhood trauma, attachment conditioning, or complex PTSD, your story deserves more than a surface-level fix. I take a nervous system-informed, attachment-focused approach to help you untangle the roots of your pain, reconnect with yourself, and create meaningful, lasting change.

  • Relational trauma happens in the context of relationships - especially ones that we’re supposed to feel safe. It can come from childhood experiences or adult relationships where you felt powerless, chronically invalidated, unseen, or emotionally neglected.

    It often leaves you with survival strategies like:

    • People-pleasing or fawning to avoid conflict

    • Walking on eggshells or reading the room constantly (hypervigilance)

    • Struggling with boundaries or self-trust

    • Feeling “too much,” “not enough,” or both

    • Disconnecting from yourself

    This kind of trauma usually doesn’t come from one big event - it’s built over time from chronic emotional misattunement.

    And healing from it starts by feeling safe enough to stop performing and start reconnecting with yourself.

    Learn more about relational trauma examples here

    Learn more about anger with trauma survivors & people pleasers here

  • Complex PTSD comes from repeated, ongoing trauma - often in childhood or in relationships where you were emotionally neglected, manipulated, or exposed to chaos and unpredictability.

    You may relate to symptoms like:

    • Emotional dysregulation

    • Trouble sleeping or concentrating

    • Low self-esteem or a harsh inner critic

    • Hypervigilance (being on fight-flight constantly, scanning for danger or something to go wrong, monitoring others tones/mood, and waiting for the other shoe to drop. Learn more here)

    • Anxiety and intrusive thoughts

    • Struggles with intimacy or trust

    Examples of experiences that can lead to C-PTSD:

    -Childhood emotional neglect or emotional/physical/sexual abuse
    -Parentification or having to be the caretaker
    -Emotionally immature, narcissistic, or mentally ill or addicted caregivers
    -High-conflict homes, frequent emotional volatility, and constant violent threats
    -Chronic invalidation, bullying, or gaslighting

    These are not things you were meant to just “get over” or talk your way out of. C-PTSD requires compassion, nervous system deeper support, and safe connection in order to heal.

    Learn more about the difference of PTSD & C-PTSD and more examples of what causes it here.

  • Attachment wounds happen when our emotional needs weren’t consistently met in early relationships. These wounds impact how we show up in adult connections - whether that’s fearing abandonment, avoiding intimacy, or constantly second-guessing ourselves.

    You might:

    • Feel anxious or insecure in relationships

    • Struggle to trust or rely on others

    • Constantly seek reassurance or validation

    • Swing between clinging and withdrawing

    • Feel like you're too much, or not enough

    • Struggle with alone time or seek too much alone time

    • Deeply fear that others are mad at you, will be disappointed in you, or will ultimately reject or leave you

    These patterns formed to keep you safe. In therapy, we’ll explore these dynamics with care, helping you build more secure attachment and deeper self-trust.

    Learn more about anxious attachment styles here.

    Learn more about hypervigilance and anxiety in relationships here.

    Learn more about why you feel “too much” and “not enough” here.

  • In our work together, we’ll identify where trauma or attachment wounds are showing up, where they developed, and most importantly, what healing looks like for you.

    I integrate trauma-informed, evidence-based mind-body approaches including:
    -EMDR therapy
    -Somatic and nervous system work
    -IFS and parts work
    -Mindfulness and self-compassion
    -Psychoeducation to help you understand your responses

    I believe you know yourself best. My role is to support your reconnection with your authentic self - to help you feel more grounded in your body, confident in your voice, and secure in your relationships.

    Unlearning these patterns is possible. Not by “fixing” yourself - but by coming home to yourself!

    Here is a blog that breaks down how EMDR works and what it does.

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Signs Of Relational Trauma Impacting You:

You feel “too sensitive,” “too much,” and “not enough” at the same time

You have a hard time trusting yourself, trusting others, setting boundaries, or asking for what you need

Your nervous system lives in overdrive (fight/flight) - or shuts down completely (freeze) when things get too much. You feel dysregulated, reactive, or dissociated often.

You’ve been through therapy before, but never felt safe enough to get deep or you have but don’t feel like anything has changed and these patterns keep showing up despite the fact that you know them

Here’s what we’ll do together

As a relational trauma therapist, I aim to help you feel safe in your body, trust yourself, trust others again, and break free from survival mode

We’'ll move at a pace that feels safe and supportive - never rushed or forced. We’ll explore the roots of your patterns with curiosity, not judgement, so you can finally understand why you feel the way you do.

Through somatic approaches and a deeply relational approach - we’ll help your nervous system unlearn survival strategies that no longer serve you. I am also an EMDR therapist, which is an evidence based trauma treatment (learn more here) that helps you process and heal from trauma by targeting distressing memories and shifting how they’re stored in the brain.

Together, we’ll identify any trauma responses, build self-trust, increase emotional regulation, establish healthier relationships to feel more connected to other people again, and reconnect you with the parts of yourself you’ve had to dismiss or neglect.

This will be your space to feel, to heal, and reconnect with your authentic self. To build lasting confidence, to feel grounded, and to process what’s been holding you back from the life you really want and deserve.

At the end of the day, I want you to know:

Past experiences don’t have to continue holding you back. You are not broken. Your story makes sense. And you are worthy of healing, connection, and a life that doesn’t feel out of control.

What we’ll work on

Relational Trauma Therapy Will Help…

  • You feel grounded and at comfortable in your body - not waiting for the other shoe to drop

  • You trust yourself and stop externalizing your worth

  • You set boundaries with ease and without guilt

  • You let go of carrying so much shame and feelings of inadequacy

  • You show up in relationships as your full, authentic self

  • You stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting your own pace, needs, and intuition

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  • Relational Trauma therapy might be right for you if you’ve been through something overwhelming - or even if you just feel stuck, anxious, disconnected, or exhausted trying to keep it all together.

    You don’t have to have a “big trauma” for it to be valid. Many of my clients experienced emotional neglect, being parentified by parents, or repeated trauma in the context of environments where they had to suppress their needs to feel safe.

    Signs relational trauma therapy could help:

    • You feel on edge, anxious, or easily triggered

    • You struggle with boundaries, people-pleasing, or perfectionism

    • You avoid conflict, emotions, or vulnerability

    • You feel numb, disconnected, or like you're “just going through the motions”

    • You have nightmares, flashbacks, or memories that feel too “loud”

    Whether you’re dealing with PTSD, complex trauma, or years of chronic stress, relational trauma therapy helps you feel safer in your body, break old patterns, and reconnect with who you are underneath survival mode.

    I offer relational trauma therapy in NYC and virtually in NJ, MD, and DC.

  • No! Unless you want to. We’ll never go anywhere you’re not ready for.

    Trauma therapy doesn’t always mean detailing painful memories- it means helping your body and mind feel safer in the present.

    If we use EMDR, you will be able to process in a way that you aren’t sharing all of the details out loud. We will work gently, with curiosity, and always at your pace.

  • Yes. My approach is relational, somatic, and trauma-informed - designed for lasting nervous system change, not just insight. If you’ve “understood” your patterns but still feel stuck in them, this deeper work may be the shift you’ve been look for.

    If talk therapy didn’t help you in the past, EMDR therapy may be a good fit for you. First I will teach you about trauma responses, developing safety in the body, self-regulation skills, and then we can dive into the work. Learn more about EMDR therapy here.

  • EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) is a trauma therapy that helps your brain and body process distressing experiences and beliefs so they no longer feel as overwhelming or stuck. It doesn’t require talking through every detail - instead, using left and right centers of your brain, it helps you rewire how the trauma lives in your nervous system. If you feel like you “know” your patterns and feel stuck with no change, my clients often say EMDR is the thing that helped on a deeper level.

    If you have beliefs about yourself that you know aren’t logical but drive your behavior - EMDR can help rewrite those beliefs and fully process whats behind them.

    Please note I’m an EMDR therapist. however I like to integrate it and bring it into the treatment once we have built a relationship and it feels appropriate and then we carry on with our regular talk therapy as well. Learn even more here.

  • PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) usually develops after a single traumatic event - like an accident, assault, or natural disaster. It can show up as flashbacks, nightmares, intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, or feeling constantly on edge.

    Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) comes from ongoing or repeated trauma - often in childhood or in relationships where you felt powerless, unsafe, or emotionally neglected. Learn more here.

    This might include growing up in a chaotic home, witnessing/experiencing domestic violence, parentification, emotional abuse, or being in a toxic relationship.

    C-PTSD symptoms can look similar to PTSD and then also include:

    • Chronic self-doubt, worthlessness, shame, or guilt

    • Low self esteem/self worth

    • Difficulty trusting others or feeling safe in relationships

    • Emotional dysregulation (feeling big feelings or like they are “too much” and struggling to regulate emotions)

    • People-pleasing, perfectionism, or a fear of abandonment

    • Feeling like you never got to fully “be yourself”

    • Dissociation (detaching from yourself, your feelings, or the world around you)

    Many of my clients relate more to C-PTSD, even if they didn’t know there was a name for it. Trauma therapy can help you understand your trauma responses - and begin to heal them.