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The Hidden Cost of Hyper-Independence: Why You Struggle to Let Anyone In
Trauma Healing & Relational Wounds Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 8/7/25 Trauma Healing & Relational Wounds Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 8/7/25

The Hidden Cost of Hyper-Independence: Why You Struggle to Let Anyone In

If asking for help makes you feel ashamed or unsafe, you might be struggling with hyper-independence - a protective response rooted in trauma or unmet attachment need. Learn how it forms, how it affects relationships, and how to heal!

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Happy v day - besides romantic connections I think this time is for friendships & self love too. ⁣
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The thing is self-love isn’t just bubble baths & spa days.⁣
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Sometimes it’s…⁣
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✨holding the boundary⁣
✨having the uncomf
Disappointing someone shouldn’t feel like a threat to your safety…⁣
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…but for a lot of people, it does.⁣
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Not because you’re dramatic. Not because you’re “too sensitive.”⁣
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But because your nervous syste
Sometimes self-care isn’t another routine to optimize or doing more to feel good! ⁣
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It’s often fewer plans. Fewer explanations. Less managing.⁣
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And letting your nervous system finally exhale.⁣
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That’s what I’ll be focusin
Codependency is a relational dynamic that looks like being really good at adjusting, anticipating, smoothing things over - and quietly disappearing in the process.⁣
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It’s a lot of self abandonment and self neglect, overthinking, and constantly
You don’t motivate yourself with kindness - you pressure yourself into functioning.⁣
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You rush to fix discomfort.⁣
You downplay your needs.⁣
You confuse rest with weakness.⁣
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Self-compassion isn’t indulgent or giving up!! ⁣
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It’s

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