In-person & online across New York

The Self-Trust Reset

For the woman who's tired of self-abandoning, overfunctioning, and doubting herself.

A deep healing experience for high-achieving women who are done keeping it all together on the outside, spiraling after boundaries, and second-guessing themselves - and who are finally ready to feel calm in their body, trust their inner voice, and start putting their needs first.

This is a deep, accelerated healing experience offered in-person over 2-3 days in NYC, or virtually across NY, NJ, DC, and MD. Sessions are 3-4 hours each to allow space for nervous system work, somatic healing, and true integration.

What is the self trust reset?

This isn’t just a longer therapy session.
It’s a nervous system-based, trauma-informed reset for the part of you that knows all the patterns - but still struggles to speak up, set boundaries, and feel calm in your body.

The Self-Trust Reset is a focused, deep-dive healing experience designed for high-achieving, emotionally aware women who feel stuck in patterns of self-abandonment, anxiety, people-pleasing, hypervigilance, and/or codependent patterns - even after years of therapy or self-work.

You’re likely the one who always holds it all together - the responsible one, the “mature one,” the fixer. You can sense when something’s off in the room before anyone says a word. You’ve spent so long tending to others that you’ve lost touch with your own needs, your own voice, and what it feels like to truly rest.

This reset is for the moments when:
-You’ve already journaled, analyzed, or talked it out
-You know your patterns - but can’t seem to shift them
-You try to set boundaries, but spiral with guilt or panic after
-You still don’t fully trust yourself, your intuition, your needs, or your voice
-Fears of abandonment, rejection, or disappointing people rule your life
-No matter how much work you do, your nervous system is still stuck in fight or flight, freeze, or fawn

In this work, we slow down. We go deeper.
We bring your body into the healing process - so insight becomes integration, and your system can finally stop living in survival mode.

You don’t have to keep “holding it all together” and “perform.
You get to show up as you authentically and finally start to truly heal.

IS this you?

This reset is a good fit for you if:

  • You look like you have it all together - but feel constantly overwhelmed inside

  • You spiral after setting a boundary, replaying the conversation in your head for hours

  • You second-guess your feelings, your needs, and your worth

  • You over-function and over-give in every relationship and rarely ask for help

  • You feel guilty when you rest, and anxious when you say no

  • You feel numb, shut down, or “not fully here” when you're overwhelmed

  • You don’t trust that calm or stillness is safe - or that you’re allowed to have it

  • You don’t even know what your needs are because you’ve had to be so attuned to others

  • You’re constantly scanning for others’ needs, moods, or reactions - waiting for the other shoe to drop - and rarely feel fully relaxed and safe

  • You fear abandonment, rejection, and disappointing people and this ends up creating patterns in your relationships

  • You believe you’re too much AND not enough at the same time

  • You’ve internalized shame and hold beliefs like “something is wrong with me,” “’i’m inadequate,” or feelings of unworthiness.

  • You’ve done the therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts…and you’re still stuck repeating these patterns

  • You know what the patterns are. You just don’t know how to stop living in them

This isn’t because you’re broken by the way - it’s because your nervous system learned to survive and protect you this way. And now…it’s time to shift, heal, and finally focus on YOU!

It’s Not You!
It’s the Structure.

You’re insightful. You’ve done the therapy. You know your patterns.

But still - you keep overfunctioning, shutting down, second-guessing, or spiraling after boundaries.
And it’s not because you’re doing it wrong.
It’s because traditional weekly therapy isn’t always enough to shift what’s happening in your body.

When You’re in Survival Mode, 50 Minutes Isn’t Enough

You get to the hard part - the memory, the trigger, the truth you’ve been avoiding and then the session ends. There’s no time to breathe, process, or let your body catch up. You walk out with insight…but no space to integrate it.

In survival mode, healing needs more than insight. It needs time & internal safety. And weekly therapy isn’t always built for that.

Healing Requires More Than Insight

You may already know what’s going on.
You know you overfunction. You know your nervous system is dysregulated. You know calm doesn’t feel safe.

But insight alone doesn’t create change - embodied experience does.

The Self-Trust Reset gives you time to stay with what comes up, explore it gently, and actually regulate through it, so it lands in your system - not just your mind.

What Healing Will Actually
Look Like Here:

Nervous System Regulation

Learn to recognize your stress responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and use somatic tools to move through them with more safety, calm, and control.

Inner Critic & Shame Work

Identify the deep-rooted beliefs keeping you stuck (like “I’m too much” or “I don’t matter”) - and begin to shift them with compassion, curiosity, and nervous system safety.

Rebuilding Self-Trust

Reconnect with your inner voice - so you can stop second-guessing yourself, feel clear about your needs, and start honoring your truth.

Healing Hypervigilance

Stop constantly scanning for what others need and start listening to yourself. Learn to slow down, soften, and feel safe inside your own body. This isn’t about more insight - it’s about actually feeling the shift in your nervous system and relationships.

Boundaries Without the Backlash

Set boundaries without spiraling into guilt, fear, or shutdown. Learn to hold your ground while staying regulated and connected.

Mindfulness & Self-Compassion Skills

Learn present-moment practices that help you feel more grounded, less reactive, and able to respond to your needs without judgment.

1

Pre-Intensive Session

Before your intensive, we’ll meet for a virtual 90 minute intake to build trust, explore your history, clarify your goals, build emotional regulation tools, and make sure you feel grounded before we begin.

You’ll also receive a customized prep workbook with:
-What to expect
-Journal prompts
-Nervous system check-ins
-Values, needs, and boundaries inventories
-Psychoeducation to help you feel emotionally and physically prepared
-Assessments so I can better prepare and support

This is our time to co-create safety and clarity - so the deeper work feels contained, intentional, and supportive.

2

Intensive Sessions

This is where the real shift happens!

In these longer-format sessions, we go deeper than talk therapy - using EMDR, somatic healing, and nervous system work to help your body finally process what it's been holding onto for years.

You won’t just “talk about” your patterns - you’ll experience what it feels like to move through them in real time.

We might:
- Use EMDR to gently revisit the roots of stuck beliefs like “I’m not enough” “I’m unworthy” or “My needs don’t matter” - and reprocess them with safety
- Work somatically to track sensations, tension, or freeze responses in the body - and release what’s been trapped in your system
- Practice nervous system regulation tools that shift you out of survival mode
- Connect with younger parts of you through inner child and parts work
- Use mindful self-compassion to soften shame, soothe the inner critic, and give yourself the kindness you give to others

Every part of this is personalized to your nervous system, your story, and your pace. This is deep work - but it’s also deeply supported.

3

Integration

After the last intensive, at least a week later, we’ll meet again to reflect on what came up, anchor your insights, and turn those shifts into lasting change.

You’ll also receive a personalized integration workbook with:

- Journal prompts to help integrate what you learned and released
- A regulation + reflection toolkit
- Self-compassion and parts work prompts
- Grounding exercises and next steps
- Resources and practices to support your nervous system long-term

This is where it all starts to stick. I will also give you any recommendations for next steps.

What’s Included in Your Reset

Evidence-based personalized deep dive treatment


2 customized pre and post workbooks


Comfortable, inviting space (there are even snacks!) or space to do this in your comfy home


A safe relationship and a space to just be and not perform

Your Options

Choose the right format for you.

I offer intensives in a few formats, depending on your budget, needs, & goals.

    • 90-minute pre-intensive online intake session (to get background, set goals, resource, begin the target planning)

    • Personalized in person or online 6 hour EMDR + somatic + nervous system therapy session broken up over 2 days

    • Nervous system resourcing, parts work, and trauma processing

    • 50-minute post-intensive online integration session

    • 2 custom workbooks with clinical asssessments, psychoeducation, journal prompts, mindful self compassion skills, needs inventory and grounding tools


    Investment: Starting at $2750 online or $3000 for in-person

    Available online (NY, NJ, DC, MD) or in-person in the financial district of New York City.

    • 90-minute pre-intensive online intake session (to get background, set goals, resource, begin the target planning)

    • Personalized in person or online 8-hour EMDR + somatic + nervous system therapy sessions broken up in 2 days

    • Break for stretches or a walk

    • Included water, tea, some snacks (if in person)

    • Nervous system resourcing, parts work, and trauma processing

    • 50-minute post-intensive online integration session

    • 2 custom workbooks with clinical assessments, psychoeducation, journal prompts, mindful self compassion skills, needs inventory and grounding tools


      Investment: Starting at $3000 online or $3400 for in-person

      Available online (NY, NJ, DC, MD) or in-person in the financial district of New York City.

  • Please note: to prevent overwhelm, we will do the first 2 days back to back and then break for a week and meet the 3rd day then. With EMDR, a lot of the processing happens after the session, so this gives us time to see what happens for you!

    • 90-minute pre-intensive online intake session (to get background, set goals, resource, begin the target planning)

    • Personalized in person or online 3 or 4 hour EMDR + somatic + nervous system therapy session

    • Nervous system resourcing, parts work, and trauma processing

    • 50-minute post-intensive online integration session

    • 2 custom workbooks with clinical asssessments, psychoeducation, journal prompts, mindful self compassion skills, needs inventory and grounding tools


    Investment:

    3 Hours Each Day Starting at $3,900 online or $4,200 for in-person

    4 Hours Each Day Starting at $4,400

    Available online (NY, NJ, DC, MD) Available in person in the financial district of NYC

  • Given this is a personalized and custom experience - if you would like to add time or add multiple days depending on need we can do so!

    We will discuss all of this in our consultation and I am happy to provide insight and recommendation to what’s helpful.

    You are also able to decide on this after your first intensive, if you end up wanting additional time or more days. Rates vary and we will discuss at the time.

Hi, I’m Alyssa! I created the Self-Trust Reset for women who are ready to do more than just talk about it.

I’m a licensed therapist specializing in EMDR, somatic therapy, and healing relational trauma. I work with high-achieving, emotionally-aware women who are tired of feeling stuck in cycles of overthinking, over-extending, people-pleasing, and not-enoughness - even after YEARS of insight or therapy.

I’ve worked with so many women who know that they are stuck in people pleasing patterns, immedietely fawn when they attempt to set a boundary, spiraling into guilt and panic, and even know they are putting other people first - yet they struggle to figure out what their needs are, heal the abandonment wound, and actually break these painful cycles.

It’s not because something is wrong with you - it’s because your nervous system is still stuck in survival mode. You can have all the skills, scripts, and all the insight in the world - but until you deeply connect with your body, process the deeper roots, change those core internalized beliefs, and regulate your nervous system - you’ll likely stay stuck!

That’s why I created this reset, I kept seeing my clients feel stuck in the same patterns and the 50 minute sessions don’t always cut it. I knew what was needed was a deeper, more accelerate healing process.

So whether you’re stuck in a fawn/freeze pattern, exhausted by constant anxiety, or disconnected from your own voice, this experience gives you the time and space to move through it at the root!

I bring a warm, compassionate, and individualized approach to every intensive. We’ll blend EMDR, somatic healing, and mindful self-compassion work - tailored to your pace and your system. And I’ll teach you the tools to keep supporting yourself long after our sessions end :)

If this resonates, I’d truly be honored to support you in this! It’s hard, vulnerable stuff and you’re amazing for wanting better for yourself. That’s the first step anyway. I’m excited to get to know you and do this together!

Imagine finally getting to…

Break free from the patterns that keep you stuck

You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books. But you’re still caught in loops of overthinking, self-doubt, people-pleasing, anxious attachment or shutdown. This reset is your invitation to shift those patterns from the inside out - not just with insight, but with integration

Heal the root - not just the reaction

Under the anxiety, burnout, hypervigilance, or people pleasing responses is a nervous system doing exactly what it was trained to do. We’ll gently untangle the trauma, unmet needs, and inner critic stories at the core - using EMDR, somatic healing, and parts work to help your system feel safe, grounded, and whole.

Reconnect with the self you’ve been silencing

The Self-Trust Reset helps you return to your intuition, your needs, and your voice. You’ll walk away not just with insight - but with a felt sense of clarity, self-compassion, and the ability to move forward from a place that’s finally you.

Let’s connect and see if this is right for you!

faqs

Other intensive questions?

  • EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence based trauma treatment that helps the brain reprocess distressing memories, emotions, moments, negative beliefs, and emotional patterns so they no longer feel as triggering, overwhelming, or impactful to you.

    We use bilateral stimulation (which activates the right and left centers of the brain) - like eye movements, tapping, and/or sound - to help the brain “digest” stuck experiences and build new, adaptive beliefs.

    It’s not about reliving trauma or old memories, but creating new pathways of safety, self-trust, and emotional regulation.

    While originally developed for PTSD, EMDR is also highly effective for:

    • Anxiety and chronic stress

    • Attachment wounds and relationship issues

    • Low self-worth and inner criticism

    • People-pleasing and perfectionism

    • Burnout and emotional overwhelm

    • Life transitions or grief

    • Childhood experiences that still feel unresolved

    • Body image issues

    You don’t need to have a single “big trauma” for EMDR to be helpful. It’s often the smaller, repeated moments of disconnection or invalidation that leave the deepest imprint - and EMDR helps you shift those patterns at the root.

    To learn even more about it, read more here

  • Traditional therapy is often limited to 50-minute sessions, which can make it feel time limited and cut you off right when you’re in the midst of a breakthrough or big insight. Then you have to wait another week to do it again and the process continues.

    This reset offer a spacious, uninterrupted time to focus fully on healing. You’ll have the time and nervous system support to move through what’s keeping you stuck without feeling rushed or fragmented. And you get the chance to keep going when we’re in the midst of flow!

    It also gives the chance to spend more time building up resources like grounding skills, self-regulation skills, and really get mindful and present before diving into the process.

    Because its customized and personalized - if you are interested in learning other skills, actually practicing mindfulness and somatic exercises, or going somewhere else - we get the time to!

    It’s 2-3 days of uninterrupted space to slow down, feel, process, and heal. This immersive EMDR and somatic therapy experience gives your body and mind the time they actually need to shift long-held patterns.

  • Intensives are best for people who are ready to focus on one or two stuck points - whether that’s a trauma memory, a relational pattern, or a specific area of growth.

    You don’t need to be fully “healed” but you should be emotionally stable enough to safely engage in deeper work. This is not for stabalization and major crisis. We’ll explore this together during your free consultation.

    For the self trust reset, you’re a good fit if you struggle with:

    • Anxiety and hypervigilance in relationships or in your attachment style

    • People pleasing and fawning

    • Codependent patterns, putting other people first, and abandoning your needs to attend to others

    • Carrying low self esteem, shame, and feelings of unworthiness

    • Perfectionism and struggling to believe you are inherently good enough, regardless of what you achieve or give

  • Intensives are completely private pay and are not covered by insurance nor am I able to send you a superbill for partial reimbursement unfortunately. They start at $2750 and depending on time, days, and any add ons will increase in fee.

    When you book an intensive, I’m holding a significant amount of time just for you - including reserving a private office space (for in-person), preparing personalized materials, and won’t see other clients that day.

    Because of the time and energy that goes into planning and holding an intensive, a 50% non-refundable deposit is required to secure your spot. This protects the space for both of us - and allows me to show up fully prepared to support your healing.

    The remaining balance is due by the day of your intake session. Payment plans for full-day intensives may be available upon request. We will discuss all of this in our consultation.

  • That’s totally okay - many clients come to intensives while actively working with another therapist.

    This work can compliment your ongoing therapy by helping you go deeper on a specific issue or clear a stuck point that’s been hard to move through.

    With your permission, I’m happy to coordinate care or send a brief summary to your therapist to support your continued progress.

    If you do not have one and you end up interested in continuing care post intensive I am happy to help with referrals or discuss working together if it fits.

  • Nope! EMDR is not for everyone. I just offer this modality for intensives because 50 minutes often ends up not enough time.

    If you have other needs for an intensive - we can absolutely discuss! An example: if you are working on codependency, people pleasing, perfectionism, and anxiety we can spend time working on identifying where these patterns come from, ways to regulate your nervous system, do some self discovery work, somatic exercises, mindful self compassion practices, and role play boundary setting.

    This is just an example, but we do not have to use EMDR for your work. Even if we are processing trauma, there are other ways we can work on it.

    Intensives still offer that longer form - in depth work so we don’t have to stop right in the midst of some break throughs! It also gives us the time to really practice some of the things we are speaking about and for me to guide you in somatic resourcing.

  • This reset can help with:

    • Processing a trauma or painful memory getting in the way

    • Breaking out of people-pleasing and perfectionism patterns

    • Healing after a breakup or relationship rupture

    • Addressing rejection or abandonment wounds

    • Addressing chronic self-doubt, emotional reactivity and dyregulation, or shutting down

    • Reconnecting to a sense of self-worth, addressing and shifting your deepest negative beliefs about yourself

    • Exploring the deeper “why” behind putting other people above yourself and being afraid of abandonment, rejection, or disappointing others

    • Creating safety in the body so you no longer live in fight-flight or hypvervigilant

  • After our free consultation once you decided this is for you and booked a date - I will send you a personalized workbook to help you reflect, clarify your goals, and take clinical assessments so we have as much information to help us meet your goals as possible!

    Then we’ll start with a 90-minute intake session to review your history, explore what you are wanting to work on in more depth, and I will give personal recommendations on anything else we can work on or go over in the intensive.

    So - you do not have to know exactly what you need! We’ll figure this out together and I will give some guidance on what could be helpful.

  • Schedule a free 20–25 minute video or phone consultation. We’ll talk about what’s coming up for you, what you’re hoping to shift, and whether this reset or a general intensive is the right fit!

    If it is, we’ll schedule your intake session and get the process started.

  • Therapy intensives are a highly focused and personalized experience designed to help you heal deeper, faster.

    Instead of spreading the work across 10+ weekly sessions, you get extended time, nervous system support, and tools tailored specifically to your goals.

    This isn’t just a longer session - it’s a whole process:

    • You receive a 90-minute intake to clarify your history and goals

    • 2 to 3 days of 6 - 12 hours designed to move through stuck patterns with care and pacing

    • A 50-minute post-session integration

    • 2 customized workbooks with education, journal prompts, grounding practices, and assessments to help you prepare before the intensive and integrate after the intensive

    • Behind the scenes, I spend several hours preparing your treatment plan, reviewing your materials, and tailoring your intensive to your needs

    • I am also reserving a big chunk of time where I do not see other clients that day whether online or if in person I am reserving an office space I sublease

    You’re investing in a deeper, more accelerated form of therapy that offers clarity, breakthroughs, and relief - not just maintenance. And you deserve that level of care!

  • You’ll receive a 50-minute integration session to help process, reflect, and anchor the insights from your intensive.

    You’ll also leave with a custom workbook full of tools, prompts, and nervous system practices to support continued growth. Some clients return to their regular therapy afterward, while others choose to book a second intensive or follow up with occasional sessions. We’ll talk through what feels most supportive for you!

  • The great news about intensives - is that we can personalize and customize as we go!

    If after your intake and 2-3 day sessions, you realize theres more you want to work on - we can discuss additional extended sessions!

    For example, we may get through one “target” of EMDR (aka one specific issue or memory) and you want to work on a completely separate thing that emerged - we can schedule another 2-4 hour block on a different date. I will share the rates as we discuss this.

    On the other end of this, if we schedule 6 hours and get through your EMDR work in 5 hours - we get the time to integrate, ground, and reflect. We can even spend some of the time winding down, practicing breathing, or mindfulness strategies.