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Why Taking Up Space Feels Dangerous - And Why That Makes Complete Sense
Trauma & Nervous System Healing Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 4/13/26 Trauma & Nervous System Healing Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 4/13/26

Why Taking Up Space Feels Dangerous - And Why That Makes Complete Sense

If taking up space feels threatening - if your voice gets smaller, your body contracts, and you leave conversations feeling less than you arrived - this isn't a confidence problem. It's a nervous system one. Learn why your body learned to shrink and what actually helps.

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When Peace Feels Threatening: Why Slowing Down & Good Things Make You Anxious
Trauma & Nervous System Healing Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 1/3/26 Trauma & Nervous System Healing Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 1/3/26

When Peace Feels Threatening: Why Slowing Down & Good Things Make You Anxious

If slowing down makes you anxious or good things feel uncomfortable, it’s not self sabotage. It’s your nervous system! Here’s why peace feels threatening after trauma and how to begin feeling safe again.

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These aren’t tools I just recommend -  they’re ones I use in session, in my support groups with women, and honestly on myself before a hard conversation or when my own nervous system is running the show.⁣
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The extended exhale before I re
Taking up space feels dangerous when your nervous system was taught that shrinking kept you safe.⁣
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And not even because of a confidence problem. It really is a nervous system and adaptive attachment pattern that made complete sense when you learned
People-pleasing guilt doesn’t just sound like⁣
“I feel guilty.”⁣
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Sometimes it sounds like:⁣
“What if they’re mad at me?”⁣
 “I should’ve just said yes.”⁣
 “Now I need to fix this.”⁣

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