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AK PSYCHOTHERAPY
About
About Me
Approach
Specialties
Trauma Therapy
Anxiety & Overwhelm Therapy
People Pleasing, Codependency, & Perfectionism Therapy
Depression & Burn Out Therapy
Services
Individual Therapy
Women's Support Group
EMDR Intensives
The Self-Trust Reset
FAQs
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The Hidden Cost of Hyper-Independence: Why You Struggle to Let Anyone In
Trauma Healing & Relational Wounds Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 8/7/25 Trauma Healing & Relational Wounds Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 8/7/25

The Hidden Cost of Hyper-Independence: Why You Struggle to Let Anyone In

If asking for help makes you feel ashamed or unsafe, you might be struggling with hyper-independence - a protective response rooted in trauma or unmet attachment need. Learn how it forms, how it affects relationships, and how to heal!

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Healing After Gaslighting & Chronic Invalidation: Rebuilding Self-Trust When Your Reality Was Dismissed or Minimized
Trauma Healing & Relational Wounds Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 6/6/25 Trauma Healing & Relational Wounds Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 6/6/25

Healing After Gaslighting & Chronic Invalidation: Rebuilding Self-Trust When Your Reality Was Dismissed or Minimized

If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive” or found yourself doubting your own emotions and memories, you may be healing from gaslighting or chronic invalidation. Here’s how to rebuild self-trust and reconnect with what’s real.

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✨ Control is often praised as competence… but so much of it is just fear in disguise. When we don’t feel safe, we cling tighter. Letting go isn’t weakness or bad, it means you’re learning to trust #control #therapistsofinstag
September brings lots of transitions and changes!⁣
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Swipe for 3 tips to help you get through ⁣
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And if you want more - my September newsletter is all about transitional anxiety with tips and some journal prompts!⁣
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Plus access my free nervous syst September intentions 🍂 what are yours? Share in the comments below 👇🏻#september #septemberintentions Secure vs anxious attachment and then swipe for secure vs avoidant attachment style!⁣
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Anxious attachment is about fearing abandonment, rejection, and constantly seeking closeness. Those with anxious styles struggle with trust, believing things will Perfectionism says “you can’t make mistakes” - even when you logically know perfection doesn’t exist.⁣
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✨ That tension is exhausting.⁣
✨ That inner critic steals your rest.⁣
✨ That pressure keeps you from feeling “enoug
So many of us were taught that the less we need, the more lovable we are.
But needing support, care, and closeness doesn’t make you “too much.”
It makes you human!!! 

✨ Your needs don’t make you harder to love.
✨ The right pe Connection doesn’t just “happen.” ⁣
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It’s built through small, intentional actions that create safety, trust, and closeness over time.⁣
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It’s about being vulnerable, honest, and learning how to be with conflict and rep Why do we keep chasing people who can’t meet us halfway?⁣
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When you’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, it’s not because you’re “too much.”⁣
It’s often because inconsistency and distance feel famil

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