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5 Reasons Why We Self-Sabotage (Even When We Want Better for Ourselves)
Trauma & Self-Worth Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 5/18/25 Trauma & Self-Worth Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 5/18/25

5 Reasons Why We Self-Sabotage (Even When We Want Better for Ourselves)

Self-sabotage isn’t about laziness or lack of motivation - it’s often a trauma response. This blog explores the deeper reasons we hold ourselves back and how to heal from the patterns that keep us stuck.

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Sometimes we mistake pushing through for strength - but ignoring our needs is just another form of self-neglect.⁣
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Self-compassion isn’t indulgent - it’s honest, gentle accountability, it’s feeling our feelings, it’s letting World mental health day!!⁣
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A reminder that just because someone’s smiling and extroverted and saying things are good and look fine on the outside doesn’t mean they aren’t struggling inside.⁣
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Here are some warning signs you&rsquo You’re not just staying busy to get more done.⁣
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You’re protecting yourself from the discomfort of being and doing less.⁣
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Stillness will feel foreign at first and you may feel restless or on edge and that’s okay.⁣
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Safety grows Mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment on purpose.⁣
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Your nervous system doesn’t need you to do more - it needs you to just be here.⁣
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Save these mindful mantras for when you forget how to slow dow and need a reminder of stayin
When it comes to moving through your fight flight I find it so important to excess out your energy, move your body and THEN slow things down.⁣
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Here are some small ways to do it #fightflightfreeze #somatic #therapistsofinstagram #anxiety If you’re a recovering people pleaser or currently struggling with it - ⁣
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Old beliefs and patterns are going to come your way! What you do with it is important.⁣
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Here are some old thoughts and then a way to replace it with a healthy reframe
Healing doesn’t mean you’ll feel happy, positive or optimistic 24/7.⁣
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That’s not reality.⁣
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When we work on ourselves if means learning to ride the waves when life feels heavy. ⁣
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Resilience is built in the moments we allow ours Summer was SO fun I got a lot of trips and adventure and joy.⁣
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For me, October is about slowing down and recharging. Listening to my body, doing less, and staying put.⁣
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What is your intention this month?? #october #fallintentions

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