Codependency is a set of patterns where you prioritize everyone else around you, while abandoning yourself in the process.

It’s something that was learned over time and can be unlearned with the right support!

While most high functioning codependents appear to have it all together on the outside - most hold deep fears of rejection, abandonment, and lots of pain on the inside.

Codependency is also a strength though! You’re caring, supportive, and dependable. But at what cost? Usually your time, capacity, and energy. With codependent patterns comes deep feelings of anxiety, resentment, and burn out and so the work here is to not only develop healthier interdependent relationships - but learning to take better care of you.

To built up self trust. To learn who you you are, what you like, and what you need (outside of the context of how much you show up for everyone else). It’s challenging work, but its so possible with a community of other women working on the same things.

• Grew up in a chaotic environment or unhealthy family system where you took on more than you should for your age

• Were responsible for your caregivers emotions & problems

• Have trauma from past relationships still impacting you now

• Feel you didn’t have healthy relationships modeled or you notice you’re carrying intergenerational trauma

• Constantly feel anxious and on high alert - always overthinking and waiting for the other shoe to drop

• Struggle to put yourself first, always prioritizing other peoples needs above your own

• Over-give and under-receive, left feeling exhausted or resentful

• People please, say yes when you mean no, or find yourself fawning to avoid conflict and “keep the peace”

• Take on other peoples problems and emotions as your responsibility to fix and change

• Have high and unrealistic expectations of yourself and find yourself to be highly self-critical or a perfectionist

• Find yourself feeling guilty when you try to set boundaries and shame for not following through

• A deep fear of disappointing other people or being rejected

• Grew up in a chaotic environment or dysfunctional family system where you took on more than you should for your age (parentification)

• Were responsible for your caregivers emotions & problems and now feel responsible for everyone around you

• Have trauma from past relationships still impacting you now - showing up as an anxious or disorganized attachment style

• You Auto-fix (rescue) other peoples problems and constantly try to take away their pain

• Your identity is tied up in what you DO for others and how “helpful” you are

• Constantly feel anxious and on high alert - always overthinking, scanning peoples moods, and waiting for the other shoe to drop (hypervigilance)

• Struggle to put yourself first, always prioritizing other peoples needs above your own. Maybe you have no idea what are your needs and what are others because they’re so intertwined

• Over-give and under-receive, left feeling exhausted or resentful

• People please, say yes when you mean no, or find yourself fawning to avoid conflict and “keep the peace”

• Have high and unrealistic expectations of yourself and find yourself to be highly self-critical or even a perfectionist

• Find yourself feeling guilty when you try to set boundaries and shame for not following through

• A deep fear of disappointing other people, being rejected, or even deeper - a true fear of abandonment

• Deeply struggle with being alone and do anything to focus on other people instead of yourself

• Believe your worth and purpose comes from being needed, validated, or useful

• You don’t know who you are and what you bring to the table outside of your relationships and what you do for others

• Need control and feel like it’s on you to manage everything or things will fall apart

• Grew up with emotionally immature parents, supported a mentally ill or addicted family member/partner, or had a narcissistic parent

Many women resonate with both of these groups, and that makes sense. Codependency, people-pleasing, anxious attachment, and relational trauma often overlap and come from similar early experiences.

The difference between these groups is less about what you struggle with and more about where you are in your healing process and what kind of support feels most useful right now!

The Women’s Relational Trauma Support Group is a better fit if you are still in the earlier or middle stages of this work. This group offers more structure, psychoeducation, and grounding as we explore how relational trauma, family dynamics, and attachment patterns have shaped your nervous system, sense of self, and relationships. It’s a supportive place to build awareness, language, and safety while beginning to practice boundaries, self-trust, and emotional regulation. Though we also talk through regular stressors that show up in life and connect outside of just these topics.

The Codependency Support Group is a better fit if you already have insight into your patterns and are ready to go deeper. And, if you identify with codependency in your relationships and life.

This group is more process-oriented and experiential, with less teaching and more real-time relational work. We focus on noticing patterns as they show up in the room, practicing boundaries and differentiation, tolerating discomfort, and strengthening your ability to stay connected to yourself in close relationships. It’s a smaller group so there is more time to share what’s going on for you and connect with the other women.

If you feel unsure, that’s okay. Many women move between these groups over time as their needs shift. If you’re holding a lot emotionally, feeling easily overwhelmed, or still making sense of your story, the relational trauma group often provides a steadier foundation. If you’re craving deeper processing, accountability, and practice with change, the codependency group may feel more aligned.

And if you’re still not sure, we will talk it through together and I can recommend!