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5 Reasons Why We Self-Sabotage (Even When We Want Better for Ourselves)
Trauma & Self-Worth Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 5/18/25 Trauma & Self-Worth Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 5/18/25

5 Reasons Why We Self-Sabotage (Even When We Want Better for Ourselves)

Self-sabotage isn’t about laziness or lack of motivation—it’s often a trauma response. This blog explores the deeper reasons we hold ourselves back and how to heal from the patterns that keep us stuck.

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“It’s never good enough.”⁣
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Is a voice in your head that says you should be doing more, trying harder, getting it perfect — even when no one else is asking that of you. ⁣
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That’s likely your inner critic.⁣
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Perfection
If you’ve ever felt like you couldn’t trust yourself — this might be why.

When you’ve been gaslit or chronically invalidated, it doesn’t just mess with your head — it messes with your gut.
You start second-guessin Regulation mantras! Which resonates most for you? #selfregulate #somatichealing #somatic #traumatherapist #traumatherapy #therapistofinstagram #nyctherapist #njtherapist #dctherapist If you grew up being told:⁣
“you’re overreacting”⁣
“that didn’t happen”⁣
“you’re too sensitive” —⁣
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You start to internalize the belief that your feelings can’t be trusted or that you
Why You Might Be Addicted to Stress, Chaos & Drama — and How to Heal! ⁣
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If calm feels uncomfortable…⁣
If urgency feels safer than stillness…⁣
If you’re constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop — this blog is You don’t always have to look anxious to be anxious.⁣
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Sometimes it’s the overthinking, the second-guessing, the pressure to get it “right.” It’s saying yes when you want to say no, needing reassurance but feeling asham Working through and unlearning both codependency and people pleasing isn’t always soft and easy. Sometimes it looks like feeling angry, setting boundaries, or honoring your needs for the first time — even when it feels uncomfortable or un

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