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How to Stop Self-Abandoning in Relationships
Relationships & Attachment Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 11/19/25 Relationships & Attachment Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 11/19/25

How to Stop Self-Abandoning in Relationships

Self-abandonment is what happens when you disconnect from your needs, feelings, or boundaries to keep the peace in your relationships. In this blog, I break down what self-abandonment looks like, why it happens, and how to start staying connected to yourself again.

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Why You Always Feel Like You’re ‘Too Much’ (And Not Enough): Healing the Root of People-Pleasing & Anxiety
Codependency & People-Pleasing Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 4/27/25 Codependency & People-Pleasing Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 4/27/25

Why You Always Feel Like You’re ‘Too Much’ (And Not Enough): Healing the Root of People-Pleasing & Anxiety

Ever feel like you’re always either “too much” or “not enough”? Learn why people-pleasing, perfectionism, and anxious attachment can leave you stuck - and how to start healing from the inside out.

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How often do you leave a convo and feel you gave more then you received?⁣
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Or relationships that feel one sided.⁣
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It this is often for you, here are some signs you’re carrying more than your share of the emotional labor!⁣
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#therapistsoninst Trusting yourself isn’t lost - it’s just buried under years of survival mode. ⁣
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Your intuition didn’t disappear or go away it’s waiting for space, safety, and softness to be heard again!⁣
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#intuition #selftrust #therapistso ⁣
If you’re always bracing for something bad to happen right when life finally feels calm, this is from being  conditioned!⁣
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When chaos was familiar, safety can feel suspicious.⁣
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Nothing going wrong ironically triggers a fear in you and a s
Sometimes the patterns that exhaust you now… are the ones that once kept you safe and protected. ⁣
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Now it’s about understanding where they came from, what they protected you from, and learning new ways to feel supported, connected, and High functioning codependency shows up as having it all together on the outside - fixing, being the supportive friend, always dependable.⁣
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But internally there’s a lot of pain. A lot of deeply internalized beliefs about where your worth comes Your window of tolerance is the optimal zone where you can effectively connect with others, function best, think rationally, and manage life’s stressors!⁣
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It’s important to have awareness of your window. In therapy you can learn your tr Lately I’ve been talking with so many clients about the difference between resting and shutting down.⁣
They look the same on the outside… but inside, they’re super different .⁣
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If you’ve ever wondered why some “rest&r December tends to be super busy. ⁣
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So personally, this month I’m letting my system exhale. ⁣
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Less urgency, more pacing. Less “should,” and more “what do I want and need?” ⁣
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Rather than speed things up this month an

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