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Why You Feel Responsible for Everyone Else's Feelings (And How to Stop)
People-Pleasing & Codependency Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 3/6/26 People-Pleasing & Codependency Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 3/6/26

Why You Feel Responsible for Everyone Else's Feelings (And How to Stop)

If you over-function, people-please, and carry everyone's emotions and don’t know why or how to stop - this is why. I explain what hyper-responsibility is, why you do it, and how to stop.

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The Subtle Signs You’re Emotionally Over-Giving (And Starting To Feel Burnt Out)
People Pleasing, Anxiety & Emotional Health Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 2/23/26 People Pleasing, Anxiety & Emotional Health Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 2/23/26

The Subtle Signs You’re Emotionally Over-Giving (And Starting To Feel Burnt Out)

You don’t think of yourself as a people pleaser. But you’re tired. Emotionally drained. Quietly resentful. Here are the subtle signs you may be emotionally over-giving - and what to do about it.

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How to Stop Self-Abandoning in Relationships
Relationships & Attachment Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 11/19/25 Relationships & Attachment Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 11/19/25

How to Stop Self-Abandoning in Relationships

Self-abandonment is what happens when you disconnect from your needs, feelings, or boundaries to keep the peace in your relationships. In this blog, I break down what self-abandonment looks like, why it happens, and how to start staying connected to yourself again.

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You can know exactly why you do something and still not be able to stop doing it!⁣
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That’s not a willpower or discipline problem btw. ⁣
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That’s also absolutely not a self-awareness problem. ⁣
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That’s what happens when your nervou If you’ve ever caught yourself analyzing a text or thinking the entire hang out why they seem a little “off” instead of just enjoying the conversation - this is for you.⁣
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Anxious and hypervigilant attachment doesn’t always l Six things I’m practicing this month!⁣
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Not goals, not a checklist. Just invitations to be more intentional this April ❤️⁣
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Personally? The one that’s hardest for me right now is  Receiving without immediately giving back.⁣
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What&rsq You don’t just have anxiety! You have parts that learned to protect you - and they’ve been working overtime ever since!⁣
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-The overthinker⁣
-The perfectionist⁣
-The one who over-explains every “no”⁣
-The one who apologizes fo The guilt after a boundary isn’t a sign you were wrong. It’s your nervous system doing exactly what it was trained to do.⁣
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For a lot of people-pleasers or over givers, guilt is automatic - a full-body alarm that goes off the moment some Your nervous system doesn’t know the difference between a real threat and someone being upset with you.⁣
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For chronic over-givers, everyday moments become dysregulating - not because you’re too sensitive, but because your system was trai When helping people feel better became how you measured your own worth.⁣
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Attending to everyone else is a part of you that makes complete sense. The issue is it starts costing you everything.⁣
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Your nervous system learned early: keep everyone comfo Recovery from people-pleasing isn’t a a quick and easy glow-up.⁣
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It’s a dismantling your old beliefs and patterns and then, slowly, a rebuilding - on your own terms.⁣
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If you’re in the messy middle and feeling lots of discomfort& If you grew up in an environment where love felt conditional - where you had to perform, achieve, or take care of others to feel wanted - your nervous system learned a very specific lesson:⁣
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Your value is in what you do. Not who you are.⁣
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So you I don’t know what I need” is one of the most common things I hear from my clients. ⁣
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It’s not that you don’t actually have needs btw. It’s that you’ve spent so long making sure everyone else’s needs were me

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