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Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Attract (And How to Heal Together)
Relationships & Attachment Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 9/18/25 Relationships & Attachment Alyssa Kushner, LCSW 9/18/25

Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Attract (And How to Heal Together)

Anxious and avoidant partners often feel stuck in a push-pull cycle - craving closeness yet fearing it. Learn why this happens and how to build healthier connection together.

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When we’re in a state of shut down or freeze ⁣ ⁣ We want to slowly turn our system back online, reconnect with others safely, and sort of wake up our nervous system.⁣ ⁣ Gentle movement, engaging the five sense, and connecting with safe people o ✨ High-functioning codependency can be tricky to spot - because on the outside, it often looks like being helpful, reliable, and put-together. And it is! ⁣ ⁣ But underneath, it can mean overextending, taking responsibility for everyone else, and tyi Do you ever feel like you know what you want… but the moment you choose, the doubt takes over?⁣ ⁣ This is what happens when self-trust & anxiety wounds show up. Even the smallest decisions can feel high-stakes when you’ve been condit
Do you feel guilty when you rest?⁣ ⁣ That’s not laziness - that’s conditioning! To a world that tells us we have to do more, to relational dynamics telling us we haven’t done enough, to jobs that tell us productivity equals worth. Honestly there’s not much encouragement anyone can say right now, nothing new, nothing to “fix” the pain. But here are some things to remember 🩷 Sending love, compassion, care! Please message me if you need a referral I know plenty Sometimes we don’t have to do anything too big on our anxious days - we have to remember the smaller things.⁣ ⁣ Which resonates for you? Which did you need to hear? #anxiousdays #reminders #anxious #therapistsofinstagram #selfcompassion Colorado is always my happy, peaceful place it’s so beautiful!!! I always feel grateful getting some space from NYC and a dose of nature. When I get back, it reminds me how much I love my job, my routine, and how nice it is to see my amazing cl You’re not “dramatic” for noticing every little shift in a relationship.⁣ ⁣ That constant edge you feel isn’t because you’re doing something wrong - it’s just your nervous system doing its best to protect you.⁣ ⁣

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