Growing Up With a Narcissistic Parent: How It Creates Codependency
Grew up with a parent whose moods, needs, and image came first? You may have learned to read every room, keep the peace, and put everyone else’s feelings before your own. In this blog, I break down the difference between a narcissistic and an emotionally immature parent, how growing up with one can lead to codependency, and how healing actually starts, from a trauma therapist who works with these patterns every day.
Why You Can't Let Go of Control (And Why "Just Let It Go" Never Worked)
If you learned early that staying on top of things was how you stayed safe, acceptance doesn't land as relief. It lands as a threat. Why letting go of control is so hard, and what radical acceptance actually means.
Empathy vs. Over-Responsibility: Why Caring About People Shouldn't Cost You Yourself
Empathy says: I see you, I'm here, I get it. Over-responsibility says: this is mine to fix. The difference is subtle - and for the people who've been the "thoughtful one" in their relationships for decades, it's the difference between sustainable care and chronic exhaustion.
The Subtle Signs You’re Emotionally Over-Giving (And Starting To Feel Burnt Out)
You don’t think of yourself as a people pleaser. But you’re tired. Emotionally drained. Quietly resentful. Here are the subtle signs you may be emotionally over-giving - and what to do about it.
Signs of a One-Sided Relationship: When You’re Always the One Giving
Always feeling like you’re the one giving more in relationships? Learn the signs of a one-sided relationship, what is just over-giving vs true codependency, and steps to take to create healthier, more balanced connections.
How to Stop Self-Abandoning in Relationships
Self-abandonment is what happens when you disconnect from your needs, feelings, or boundaries to keep the peace in your relationships. In this blog, I break down what self-abandonment looks like, why it happens, and how to start staying connected to yourself again.
Why the Holidays Feel So Stressful (Especially for People-Pleasers and Empaths)
The holidays often bring both joy and stress. Here’s why they can feel so emotionally charged- and how to navigate them with awareness, boundaries, and self-compassion.
Emotionally Immature Parents: How They Shape Us (And How to Heal)
Many adults minimize their lack childhoods unmet needs, yet still carry the impact of emotionally immature parents. Learn the signs, the lasting effects, and how to begin healing and building self-trust.
Where Does Resentment Come From (And How to Heal It in Your Relationships)
Resentment doesn’t make you a bad person - it’s a signal. Learn where resentment comes from, what it’s telling you, and how to heal for healthier relationships.
Why You’re Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People - And When It’s Time to Walk Away
Why do we feel chemistry with people who can’t meet us emotionally? I explain what emotional unavailability is, why we’re drawn to it, and when it’s time to stop hoping and start healing.
The Hidden Cost of Hyper-Independence: Why You Struggle to Let Anyone In
If asking for help makes you feel ashamed or unsafe, you might be struggling with hyper-independence - a protective response rooted in trauma or unmet attachment need. Learn how it forms, how it affects relationships, and how to heal!
How To Stop Rescuing, Fixing, and Over-Giving in Relationships
Rescuing can look like helping - but it often leaves you feeling drained, resentful, and over-responsible. In this post, I’ll walk you through how to recognize rescuing vs supporting in relationships, why rescuing happens, and how to start healing these patterns for good.
Understanding The Effects Of Parentification On Mental Health In Adulthood
When a child is placed in a caregiving or adult like role at a young age, it can impact the way they show up in relationships as adults - feeling responsible for others emotions, neglecting their own needs, and struggling to trust that it’s safe to receive support. In this blog, we will explore what parentification really is and the impact it has.
7 Signs Of Enmeshment In Relationships
Enmeshment is a term that describes a dynamic in a relationship (whether a romantic partner, friend, or family) where you are intertwined with one another in an unhealthy way, with very little to no boundaries, autonomy, and independence. Here are 7 ways (and beliefs) that show enmeshment in relationships.
What Is High Functioning Codependency? Signs, Root Causes, and Healing
Codependency can feel like constantly putting everyone else’s needs before your own - often without even knowing you’re doing it. In this blog, we’ll talk about what codependency really is, where these patterns come from, common signs you might be struggling with it, and how therapy can help you to start healing from it to rebuild a stronger relationship with youself
7 Tips For Setting And Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
Setting boundaries can feel overwhelming and guilt inducing, especially if you are used to putting others first! In this blog, you’ll learn about what boundaries are and 7 practical tips to help you set, communicate, and maintain healthier boundaries - without guilt or second guessing.